New York, New Lessons

March 25, 2025
by Cara

Beginnings and Endings Life Hacks

Spring break just finished and I’ve returned to my regularly scheduled programming! Usually, I go back home, but since this is my senior year of college, I wanted to make the most of my remaining time with the people I’ve grown close to over the years before we all go our separate ways. So, a couple friends and I went to New York (cue “Empire State of Mind” by Alicia Keys)! It was an unforgettable experience — not because of the excitement that comes with exploring a new place, but because it taught me a lesson in adaptability.

I’m accustomed to traveling with my family, where we always have an itinerary and are all keen on the same activities. But I realized that with friends, everyone had different visions of the ideal trip. I wanted to start each day early and visit the tourist attractions, while my friends preferred taking it day-by-day and explore New York’s social life.

Initially, I felt frustrated when the trip wasn’t going as expected. Wanting to keep peace in the group, I compromised my interests and desires. Yet I felt rather disappointed, as I wasn’t getting my money’s worth. Feeling sorry for myself, I considered leaving early. But in reflection with others about my frustrations, I realized that splitting up at times was okay. Fixating on the literal meaning of “group trip” and dwelling in self-pity distracted me from understanding that my friends were free to enjoy the trip however they wanted, and so was I. I could still have an amazing trip, even if it meant being on my own sometimes.

Exploring solo made me feel more confident and introspective, which was rewarding. I learned I’m capable of navigating a subway system and loved fantasizing about living in New York while walking through Central Park and admiring the townhouses in Manhattan and Brooklyn. The sound of honking taxis, towering skyscrapers, and New Yorkers walking steadfastly against bustling streets, reaffirmed my interest in this exhilarating city. Best of all, I checked off everything I wanted to do — visit a museum, pretend to be an NYU student (why not?), and of course, eat a New York bagel!

All in all, traveling with friends is a whole new experience, but that’s what makes it so valuable. It teaches you patience, open-mindedness, and perseverance. If the trip makes it out of the group chat and you find yourself in a predicament, act on what you can do and that which is in your control. At the end of the day, the best adventures happen when you make the most of the unexpected.

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